It makes me so sad when I see women trying to force EVERYTHING in their lives.
White knuckle holding onto the steering wheel… to force things into place.
Sometimes it’s in a relationship,
Sometimes it’s at work or in their business,
sometimes it’s in their behavior.
I watch them… KILLING themselves striving for perfection.
-the perfect body
-the perfect workout
-the perfect post
-the perfect makeup
-the perfect clothes
-the perfect hair
-the perfect husband
-the perfect kids
-the perfect home
-the perfect job
-the perfect income
-the perfect promotion
-the perfect mindset
-the perfect girlfriends
-the perfect vacations
-the perfect job
So that things can be EXACTLY how they want them.
OMG… no wonder they are a hot mess on the inside!!!
This unstated goal of striving for perfection is sucking every ounce of energy out of them! It’s also sucking the life out of them!
Authenticity doesn’t exist here as most of it is a facade. A show put on for the benefit of others. Fueled by “what will they think of me” and “am I enough”.
There’s certainly minimal room for pursuing their passions as most of their energy is intertwined in achieving a goal they can never actually attain. There’s just nothing left!
Fun can only occur for them in a very controlled environment within certain guidelines. Usually… when everything is PERFECT (ie. NEVER because it’s totally unachievable).
Freedom… spontaneity… what’s that?! Always gotta look around to see who’s watching. And… with such a long checklist of thinks to mark off toward achieving this “perfection”… who’s got time for freedom?
These women definitely have no chance of feeling radiant, feminine or alive… they are too caged in by the walls of rules they’ve built around themselves.
I should know… I used to be this kind of woman!
My path to perfection was paved and littered with tears, tension and very controlling behaviors that never actually got me the result I was after.
My road to joy, freedom, and authenticity has been liberating!!! Finally free of my self imposed shackles that were holding me back from the life I REALLY wanted.
The transition wasn’t pretty at first. I had to be willing to acknowledge the walls I had built around me. I had to be willing to tear them down brick by brick. I had to notice and interrupt patterns of thought, speech and behavior that were holding me back. I had to be willing to fearlessly step into the woman I was becoming… so that I could set myself free.
It required vulnerability. It required surrender.
I’m so grateful to have had such amazing friends, coaches and mentors to support me through this metamorphosis.
For me, my need perfection appeared in almost every area of my life. Where does it show up for you?
I hope that sharing the areas where my perfectionism showed up has helped you. Maybe it brushes on a sensitive spot for you? Called attention to an area you hadn’t thought of before?
Please… share your thoughts on this concept… you might just give someone else the gift of awareness too.